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Tuesday, November 24, 2020


What comes to mind when you think of pain?

A dislocated cheekbone, an insect bite, or probably a first-degree burn. These are some of the most painful things I can think of at the moment.

But there are different types of pain and they have different impacts on our lives. I’m talking about psychological exertion and the influence they have on our lives.

If you look close enough, you can see that almost every good thing in life is a result of pain. This is because as much as it disturbs us, it is also our greatest motivator. Life, success, and even death all have one thing in common; pain.

The Beginning.

Life is often celebrated, both at the beginning and at the end. But human nature only allows us to recognize torment at the end and not at the beginning, well, for most of us. But one thing we must all acknowledge is that life at the beginning is often associated with exhilarating pain. I’m not sure whether the infant experiences pain but there’s a lot of distress for sure.

delivery pain

Mothers have to soak themselves in sweat during the few hours or days leading to their delivery. Fathers, on the other hand, suffer psychological and emotional pain. Pacing up and down the hallway at the hospital not knowing what to expect but hoping for the best. The uncertainty during this time is distress no man wants to experience a second time in his life. But it’s followed by joy when you hear the first cry. It carries all the pain away and all you recognize is unending bliss.

Isn’t it amazing how pain precedes happiness? How bliss wipes away the memory of distress experienced right before a new life is brought to this world. The bottom line is, the struggle pays off by bringing the parents and society great happiness as they watch the infant grow. That also marks the beginning of their encounter with pain.


Being mature is often associated with a responsibility for one’s life and regard for that of others. Simply, a mature person is valuable to himself and the people around them.

But what people often overlook is the impact of pain in shaping maturity. Responsibility, in most cases, is a product of irresponsibility. Experiencing the negative influence of irresponsibility on one’s life is deemed to prompt self-realization and consequently self-responsibility. This is because irresponsible acts often end in pain thus demanding change in behavior to ensure different stimuli. This is from a psychological point of view.

From a physical point of view, maturity is associated with getting past certain stages or rather rites of passage. Some of these rituals require bloodshed which implies pain. You have to endure the agony of losing the first teeth to grow stronger ones that last year. In some cultures, young males have to go through circumcision which is perceived to be painful to be recognized as adults in society.

Maturity is a good thing, but the ultimate cost must be realized and paid; pain.


We all want to be successful, and most of us are. But the difference in magnitude of success is the willingness of each individual to endure or rather persist.

No Pain No Gain

No Pain, No Gain.

This mantra is used in various places to motivate people to endure. Let’s approach it from a more realistic viewpoint. Some of the greatest athletes have graced our stadiums. But one thing they all have in common is their willingness to put in the effort. They trained hard to fight easily. Legendary wrestlers have also graced our screens with the same story, train hard to fight easy.

Every success requires effort and dedication. It requires us to look past the pain and see the promise of reaping great results. This is irrespective of the career field. White-collar jobs owners also have a painful story to share.

The bottom line is, there must be some pain for there to be any degree of success. Let’s assume luck does not exist for a moment. [Debate for another day]


This word freaks the hell out of me but I couldn’t find any appropriate synonym.

I believe that this is the case because of the pain associated with the name. Well, most people might argue that we should celebrate life instead of mourning their departure. It’s easier said than done, I know. But one thing I also acknowledge is the pain associated with the situation. Well, I’m not sure the dead feel any pain. What I’m sure of is the pain we, the bereaved experience emotional pain we cannot fathom. I believe it’s unfathomable.

There’s not much to this, the only thing we can is live the best empathetic life we possibly can. For our sake and the sake of the people leave behind. Make memories while we are alive so that our bereaved can afford a smile despite sharing pain for our demise. Not everything will be shrouded in nostalgia but we should at least try to make it so.


Pain is necessary, but how we approach it should also be cautionary. It’s okay to acknowledge its existence. But this doesn’t mean you should embrace it and live with it. Reasonable fear of distress is the greatest motivator to do what is acceptable in society. Accepting it and living with it might have unprecedented influences in your life. Impacts and consequent actions that you do not want to be referenced to you.

Whether physical, emotional, social, or psychological pain is dreaded but harnessing it could influence your life positively.

I hope you have learned something from this post. If so, like and leave your thoughts on pain in the comment section below.

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