“Fatherhood is catching up with you,” she said. This statement by my wife was a wake-up call affirming the impact fatherhood has on my lifestyle. The statement compelled me to assess the impacts of fatherhood on my lifestyle. I have never been a patient man, but fatherhood has taught me patience. This statement was triggered by my calm physique as I walked around the house bending down low, tossing and turning cushions trying to find batteries to the TV remote. My son has a tendency of playing around with TV remotes, removing the batteries, and misplacing them every time.
I believe in the philosophy of only having one life. I also believe that one life is all we need if we live it to the fullest. From this philosophy, you can already tell that I like having a good time. The recent development of fatherhood has significantly impacted my lifestyle. Do I miss my old life? Of course not! The aspect of responsibility that correlates with fatherhood has made life more interesting in so many ways. It has compelled me to change my lifestyle significantly.
The most significant readjustment is my love for whiskey. For the past four years or more, I developed a taste and tolerance for the finest scotch and bourbon whiskeys. Whiskey became so dear to me that I allocated a section of my budget to satisfy my whiskey wants. This went on till recently when something happened that changed my perception of life pertaining to my role as a father or rather a significant member of my family.
I visited the mall on a hot Saturday to grab myself a cold chocolate smoothie. I got off the elevator and saw a Red Cross tent on my right. Being a Saturday, I had begun my whiskey tasting expedition quite early, and consequently, I was not eligible for the blood donation expedition. I really wanted to partake in the exercise because for the first time in my life I had met all the requirements. I have always been skinny, less than 50Kgs, but now that I have met the requirements I still couldn’t donate a pint because of the few shots of whiskey I had taken.
This thought disturbed me a lot. I walked back home thinking about the role of whiskey in my life. I acknowledged my responsibilities to safeguard my family. The thought of not being a reliable blood donor for my family if the time came compelled me to rethink my perception of a good time. I promised myself to do away with whiskey because it posed a future limitation to my capability as a responsible family member. I switched to one or two beers during special occasions such as when watching Manchester United Matches.
My fatherhood is as old as this pandemic. For the sake of our safety due to the pandemic, it is paramount to reduce our social interactions. I wouldn’t consider myself as social and fatherhood has further suppressed social interactions among my circle. Have a handful of friends but fatherhood has led to a further decline in social interactions between me and many friends.
I am not proud of this change but it happened and I have to live with it. I rarely say no or rather I am incapable of saying no to my friends. In most cases, this led to impulse and often irrational decisions. Fatherhood also came with other responsibilities that most people don’t understand. This has caused a drastic change in my circle and the people I hang out with.
Living with few commitments means leading a life with few responsibilities. I often got home intoxicated, watched TV for a few minutes, and went straight to bed. Until a few months ago, I thought it was okay. However, my view and understanding of fatherhood compelled a significant change in this aspect of my lifestyle.
With every new role or responsibility, we are compelled to change our personality and consequently, our lifestyle. Fatherhood has significantly altered my prioritized choices. I have had to let go of some lifestyle choices. Was it easy? Of course not! I kid you not, it was hard to let go of my love for scotch whiskey. However, I realized the importance of this sacrifice.
I was forced to let go of some of my dear friends. Was it worth it? I believe it was but only time can prove it. However, I wouldn’t change anything because I believe I did everything in goodwill. I chose my role as a father first and I’ll stick to this life approach as long as it’s relevant.
Similarly, life will pose such challenges to you. We all aspire to be better in life. Different milestones in life will have significant impacts on your lifestyle. Instead of fighting them, accept and move on. Life will be easier and more fruitful that way. Till next time, adios.