“Hey babe, we need to talk,” that’s how this conversation starts before it escalates to, “I’m pregnant.” In most cases, the young man on the other side of this conversation is caught off-guard. The automatic answer is, “oooh, I’ll think about it.” In most cases and for most young men, the obvious thought is to take off. Run as far as possible and as fast as humanly possible. But, What If? What if you take responsibility and things work out? What if things don’t just work out and instead, they turn out better than you could have ever expected? Here’s a very short story.
I was going through a rough patch. One heartbreak here and a failing career there. But I was not going down easily. I kept fighting believing that I would soon catch my break. Then something happened great happened. They say when you are dumped for being broke, seek to become wealthy but I chose the alternative of finding another girlfriend. I met her on a bus and we shared a deep connection. It wasn’t that easy, check out this story to learn more about the bus experience. Fast forward, this connection flourished and several months later we were inseparable. One thing led to another and two years later she called to inform me of the unexpected news. A better version of me and her was slowly growing in her belly.
I can tell you for free that the first thing I felt was fear. The sense of responsibility scared the crap out of me. I was fresh from campus and hadn’t gotten a stable job yet. With the unstable economy in the fast-moving city, life was hard as it was. I was struggling to sustain myself and there was no way I could be responsible for two more people. But I loathed dead beats and I wasn’t going to be one.
The future was uncertain but I was not going to accept this. I would figure things out and cross bridges when I got to them. After a week of silence, I called my lady and informed her of my decision. As the saying goes, “kila mtoto huja na sahani yake,” which translates to “every child comes with their silver platter.” I was not sure what I was doing but I’m glad I did everything I did. I was sure that things would turn out worse but what if they turned out better? I had hope that the future had a better story for me provided I was willing to write it and be its architect myself.
With this in mind, I took a leap of faith to pursue this and made a vow never to turn back no matter what happened. But, I had to do it right and make a permanent commitment. Two months later, we arranged a private civil wedding and soon afterward moved in together. You see how you do things without really knowing what you’re doing. I know marriage is a big deal and one should make sure they marry the right person to lead a happy, successful, and prosperous life. I was sure she was the one and there was no way I would let this opportunity go.
We began preparations for the baby after moving in together but I later learned that one can never be ready to be a parent. Life was hard but I had something to look forward to. Each day I worked hard and looked forward to going home each evening to spend time with my heavily pregnant wife. I made peanuts and we struggled through life in the city because that was all we had. I couldn’t ask for help from anyone because I understood that this was my responsibility and I had to do anything and everything to make things work. One step at a time, one foot after the other we remained hopeful for a better life.
I succeeded in everything I put my mind on. I attributed my success to hard work and consistency because I had so much to lose if failed. The baby was born and we continued with life. everything was gradually working out and my small family was thriving.
What if I had neglected my lady and moved on with life? Probably life would not have been as kind as it hard turned out to be. The guilt of being a dead-beat dad would have consumed me and instead of progressing I probably would have regressed. Stepping up to give my family home also improved the quality of my life. Several years later, I attest that one should never run from the responsibility of being a parent for several reasons.
Taking responsibility gives you the drive you need to face life. Life is hard but when you have something to lose you become consistent. You might not do big things but by being consistent you will do the small things in a big way and eventually it will pay off. Before this, I just worked on meeting my daily needs but now, I have to think big. I have to consider things such as insurance, passive income, and investment among other things.
I’d confidently say that life is better this way. We are all happier this way. Don’t bail, instead, ask yourself what if things don’t just turn out better and turn out great? What if this is what will unlock the best version of myself?
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